*With appreciation to the reader who gave feedback that the previous version of this piece sounded like we should still honor abusers as long as we mention their harm. If we think objectively, there are many good things my father has done. He has given lots of money to charitable organizations. He has volunteered for his shul, for his community, for organizations. He is a loving brother and a caring cousin. He is a world traveler and a friend. He is also a child rapist. But (sarcasm) that shouldn't get in the way of mentioning all of the good things he does.